ANGER
Handle Hostility
Most anger is a sign that something needs to be changed. There are right and wrong ways to handle anger
- Do nothing: If you don’t feel as effective at diffusing anger as you would like, stop the moment that you feel your pulse quicken. Give yourself time to think
- Admit that you are angry: Don’t bottle up your anger; you will feel resentful. Don’t blow you either. That usually escalates tension and leads to more anger
- Leave the scene, mentally or physically. If you can’t leave imagine yourself leaving the room for calmer settings.
- Get perspective: Ask yourself exactly what made you angry. Consider the other person’s intentions. What variables might have figured into the situation and what your contribution (if any) may have been
- Speak up: Speak calmly and pick your words carefully. Avoid statements like ‘You made me angry’. Blaming remarks puts the other person on the defensive
- Reason with yourself: Sometimes you can’t tell the person that you are angry with that you’re angry with that you are angry (i.e. someone suffering from dementia) Remind yourself can help diffuse the anger Menopause Natural Support – Gwella Clinic